Invoking netstat -ta on vlager produces:
$ netstat -ta Active Internet connections Proto Recv-Q Send-Q Local Address Foreign Address (State) tcp 0 0 *:domain *:* LISTEN tcp 0 0 *:time *:* LISTEN tcp 0 0 *:smtp *:* LISTEN tcp 0 0 vlager:smtp vstout:1040 ESTABLISHED tcp 0 0 *:telnet *:* LISTEN tcp 0 0 localhost:1046 vbardolino:telnet ESTABLISHED tcp 0 0 *:chargen *:* LISTEN tcp 0 0 *:daytime *:* LISTEN tcp 0 0 *:discard *:* LISTEN tcp 0 0 *:echo *:* LISTEN tcp 0 0 *:shell *:* LISTEN tcp 0 0 *:login *:* LISTENThis shows most servers simply waiting for an incoming connection. However, the fourth line shows an incoming SMTP connection from vstout, and the sixth line tells you there is an outgoing telnet connection to vbardolino.
Using the -a flag all by itself will display all sockets from all families.